Is this your season to be single? During the holiday season, the single crowds feel a bit left out of the holiday festivities. Everything seems to revolve around “couples”. Society makes it seem as though things are merry and bright as long as you are in a relationship. That is not true! Being single during the holidays can be just as magical as being in a relationship.
Here are a few tips to make your holiday magical.
1. Reconnect with friends. Connecting with someone whether it be in person, phone or email helps to remove the feeling of being alone.
2. Do not let Santa forget your house this year! Play Santa for yourself Pick out a fabulous Christmas gift just for you. Wrap it up and attach a note from Santa. Do not open it until Christmas day.
3. Hang your Christmas lights! I enjoy putting up Christmas lights inside the house. The presence of Christmas lights help to remove the fear of “being in the dark”, in other words, being alone. It also symbolizes that you are living in God’s light.
4. Write a letter to Santa! Write down the things you want in life whether it be material items, relationships or a promotion! Then take that list and create a vision board. Have pictures with descriptions of things you want for the upcoming New Year.
5. Tis the season to be grateful! Write down a list of things you are grateful for. Also mention how grateful you are for having the opportunity to celebrate yet another fabulous Christmas.
6. Sing Christmas carols! Did you know there are major health benefits to singing? Studies have shown that singing lowers your heart rate, decreases blood pressure, and reduces stress. Fa la la la la la la la la!
7. Pay it forward. Christmas is love in action and is about giving love to others. Express your love to others by helping someone in need. Volunteer at the local soup kitchen or visit residents at a nursing home. The rewards come back to you tenfold.
8. Send love by sending out Christmas cards. You have the power to brighten someone’s day by sending them a card with love.
9. Celebrate you! Plan your own Christmas celebration! Rent a cheerful Christmas movie and prepare your favorite dish.
One thing to keep in mind is that you are never alone. Whether close by or many miles away, there are people out there that are thinking of you. I am one of them. Thinking of you and sending you love and light this holiday season. And may all your Christmases be bright.
When a Tiger becomes a Cheetah. Why Men Cheat?
There is another celebrity, Tiger Woods, who has been playing one of the most popular games in the country, referred to as the “infidelity game”.
Many experts across the country are analyzing the reasons why men cheat. Although, it is not important to know the reasons, it is more important to detect the signs that they are playing the infidelity game.
Here are some reasons why they cheat. Although they have reasons for cheating, it is not justified!
1. What an ego boost! The feeling that they are desired by other woman is a strong ego boost for them. It gives them a sense of power and confidence.
2. It’s new and exciting! They are addicted to the honeymoon phase of a relationship! Some men enjoy the first couple of months of the relationship especially since the intimate part of the relationship is at its peak.
3. He wants to be the next Hugh Hefner! – Some men idolize the life of Hugh Hefner. Some have a strong desire to be wanted by many young beautiful women. According to Hugh Hefner, he believes that Tiger’s play was “No Biggie”. Thanks Hugh.
4. The relationship lost its “spark”. The passion and fire within an intimate relationship tends to fade out if it is not maintained. It is extremely important to find creative fun and interactive ways of keeping that spark alive.
5. Don’t argue with me! Arguments and uncomfortable subjects sometimes lead a man to stray. If they can’t have their way, they will stray. The most important thing in having discussions with men is to keep it civil and calm.
6. It’s too easy! With the latest sites on the internet, it is very easy for a man to plan the infidelity game. There are dating sites, craigslist personals as well as many other chat rooms and discussion boards which make it accessible to finding potential playmates.
Are you dating a Cheetah?
1. He disappears for a few days without contacting you. One woman informed me that her significant other had some anxiety disorder where he could not talk to anyone for 5 days!
2. The intimate moments are few and far between. Is he less interested in being intimate with you? It may have something to do with his extracurricular activities with someone else.
3. He starts accusing you of cheating! He will start to remove the guilt by trying to make you out to be a cheater. He may look through your phone and find that you called a male friend of yours. He will twist it around to say that you are cheating.
4. They become less interested in what you have to say. If you are discussing something that is truly important to you and there is no response or an abrupt end to the conversation.
5. He doesn’t mind if you go away for long periods of time. Why would he mind if he could have time to cheat.
6. You do not hear from him while he is away. I was once in a relationship where he was away on travel to visit friends and did not hear from him the whole time. He claimed that he was “really busy”. I’m sure he was!
7. He is sick for a long period of time and cannot pick up the phone. If men are sick, they want to be cared for and nurtured. Show us the doctor’s note!
8. He becomes very critical of the things you do. Ladies, watch out! He is trying to throw you off track. He is shifting the focus on you in order to work on yourself.
9. He spends long periods of time on the internet. I once dated someone who would not add me as a friend on Facebook. I realized later on why that was.
10. He does not want to involve you with his friends. If you have been dating for quite a long time and have not been introduced to his friends, let the sirens ring!
Ladies, you can do a few things. If you feel as though he is cheating, do you want to investigate whether he is or not? Trust your intuition! If you feel in your heart that he is cheating, then talk to him. However, talk is cheap. For men who are addicted to the infidelity game, they may tell you what you want to hear. Remember, out of all the men who cheat in this world, there are only 3% who will admit they cheated!
Be careful and beware. Love yourself and value yourself. Just remember what you need to say – “I am woman, hear me roar!”. If he wants to be a Cheetah, you can be a Lion which includes having strength and courage to leave that relationship. You are worthy of a loving, loyal and monogamous relationship.
Wishing you love, happiness and joy this holiday season.
Many experts across the country are analyzing the reasons why men cheat. Although, it is not important to know the reasons, it is more important to detect the signs that they are playing the infidelity game.
Here are some reasons why they cheat. Although they have reasons for cheating, it is not justified!
1. What an ego boost! The feeling that they are desired by other woman is a strong ego boost for them. It gives them a sense of power and confidence.
2. It’s new and exciting! They are addicted to the honeymoon phase of a relationship! Some men enjoy the first couple of months of the relationship especially since the intimate part of the relationship is at its peak.
3. He wants to be the next Hugh Hefner! – Some men idolize the life of Hugh Hefner. Some have a strong desire to be wanted by many young beautiful women. According to Hugh Hefner, he believes that Tiger’s play was “No Biggie”. Thanks Hugh.
4. The relationship lost its “spark”. The passion and fire within an intimate relationship tends to fade out if it is not maintained. It is extremely important to find creative fun and interactive ways of keeping that spark alive.
5. Don’t argue with me! Arguments and uncomfortable subjects sometimes lead a man to stray. If they can’t have their way, they will stray. The most important thing in having discussions with men is to keep it civil and calm.
6. It’s too easy! With the latest sites on the internet, it is very easy for a man to plan the infidelity game. There are dating sites, craigslist personals as well as many other chat rooms and discussion boards which make it accessible to finding potential playmates.
Are you dating a Cheetah?
1. He disappears for a few days without contacting you. One woman informed me that her significant other had some anxiety disorder where he could not talk to anyone for 5 days!
2. The intimate moments are few and far between. Is he less interested in being intimate with you? It may have something to do with his extracurricular activities with someone else.
3. He starts accusing you of cheating! He will start to remove the guilt by trying to make you out to be a cheater. He may look through your phone and find that you called a male friend of yours. He will twist it around to say that you are cheating.
4. They become less interested in what you have to say. If you are discussing something that is truly important to you and there is no response or an abrupt end to the conversation.
5. He doesn’t mind if you go away for long periods of time. Why would he mind if he could have time to cheat.
6. You do not hear from him while he is away. I was once in a relationship where he was away on travel to visit friends and did not hear from him the whole time. He claimed that he was “really busy”. I’m sure he was!
7. He is sick for a long period of time and cannot pick up the phone. If men are sick, they want to be cared for and nurtured. Show us the doctor’s note!
8. He becomes very critical of the things you do. Ladies, watch out! He is trying to throw you off track. He is shifting the focus on you in order to work on yourself.
9. He spends long periods of time on the internet. I once dated someone who would not add me as a friend on Facebook. I realized later on why that was.
10. He does not want to involve you with his friends. If you have been dating for quite a long time and have not been introduced to his friends, let the sirens ring!
Ladies, you can do a few things. If you feel as though he is cheating, do you want to investigate whether he is or not? Trust your intuition! If you feel in your heart that he is cheating, then talk to him. However, talk is cheap. For men who are addicted to the infidelity game, they may tell you what you want to hear. Remember, out of all the men who cheat in this world, there are only 3% who will admit they cheated!
Be careful and beware. Love yourself and value yourself. Just remember what you need to say – “I am woman, hear me roar!”. If he wants to be a Cheetah, you can be a Lion which includes having strength and courage to leave that relationship. You are worthy of a loving, loyal and monogamous relationship.
Wishing you love, happiness and joy this holiday season.
Finding True Love Using the Law of Attraction
People ask me all the time how do you go about attracting the perfect mate? It is important to remove the idea that there is only one ideal mate for us. In other words, there is no such thing as “the One”. You have many and it is just a matter of choosing the right person for you at that point in your life.
In order to find the perfect mate, I highly recommend you do the following. Trust me – this strategy has worked for many people who are now in happy, loving relationships.
- Write down a DETAILED list of qualities you are looking for in a mate. For example, he/she is loyal, monogamous, funny, loves seafood and enjoys jazz music. There is no such thing as too much. The more detail you provide, the more likely you will get what you want. (Oprah recommends this strategy as well!)
- Practice gratitude everyday! Be grateful for what you have. Also, be grateful that you are in love with the perfect mate. Then, continue to read the qualities you have written down. Again, this must be done every day!
- Make room for your future mate. Act as if this person is already in your life living with you. Sleep on one side of the bed to make room for your mate. Also, make room in the closet for your future mate’s clothes.
- Create your love corner. On the far right hand corner of your bedroom as you are standing at the door, place 2 pink candles and a statue of a couple or 2 mini statues representing a couple. For example, you can have 2 ceramic birds in the corner. Also, purchase 2 silk flowers and place them in a vase located in the same corner the statue and candles are placed. Light the candles as often as you wish!
- Act as if you are in love! Have you noticed that when you are in a relationship, you tend to attract more people? This is due to the fact that you are emitting positive energy, the “in love” energy which is drawing people towards you. If you act as if you are in love, you will manifest more people.
- Visualize your perfect relationship. Spend 17 seconds 2 times a day visualizing your perfect relationship. Also, feel that person! Feel and visualize that person kissing you and hugging you.
- Love yourself first! If you do not love and respect yourself, then how can you expect to meet someone who loves you and respects you? Love and pamper yourself! The more you love yourself, the more likely you will manifest someone who loves you just the same. The more love, the better!
Remember, the key to happiness is living out your passion and loving yourself. With this inner passion and unconditional love towards yourself will bring loving and amazing people into your life. It will also help you find your “True Love”.
Sending you love and light.
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