When a Tiger becomes a Cheetah. Why Men Cheat? Posted by Sending you love and light , Monday, December 7, 2009 at 11:11 AM, in Labels: cheating, infidelity, relationships, tiger woods

There is another celebrity, Tiger Woods, who has been playing one of the most popular games in the country, referred to as the “infidelity game”.

Many experts across the country are analyzing the reasons why men cheat. Although, it is not important to know the reasons, it is more important to detect the signs that they are playing the infidelity game.

Here are some reasons why they cheat. Although they have reasons for cheating, it is not justified!

1. What an ego boost! The feeling that they are desired by other woman is a strong ego boost for them. It gives them a sense of power and confidence.

2. It’s new and exciting! They are addicted to the honeymoon phase of a relationship! Some men enjoy the first couple of months of the relationship especially since the intimate part of the relationship is at its peak.

3. He wants to be the next Hugh Hefner! – Some men idolize the life of Hugh Hefner. Some have a strong desire to be wanted by many young beautiful women. According to Hugh Hefner, he believes that Tiger’s play was “No Biggie”. Thanks Hugh.

4. The relationship lost its “spark”. The passion and fire within an intimate relationship tends to fade out if it is not maintained. It is extremely important to find creative fun and interactive ways of keeping that spark alive.

5. Don’t argue with me! Arguments and uncomfortable subjects sometimes lead a man to stray. If they can’t have their way, they will stray. The most important thing in having discussions with men is to keep it civil and calm.

6. It’s too easy! With the latest sites on the internet, it is very easy for a man to plan the infidelity game. There are dating sites, craigslist personals as well as many other chat rooms and discussion boards which make it accessible to finding potential playmates.

Are you dating a Cheetah?

1. He disappears for a few days without contacting you. One woman informed me that her significant other had some anxiety disorder where he could not talk to anyone for 5 days!

2. The intimate moments are few and far between. Is he less interested in being intimate with you? It may have something to do with his extracurricular activities with someone else.

3. He starts accusing you of cheating! He will start to remove the guilt by trying to make you out to be a cheater. He may look through your phone and find that you called a male friend of yours. He will twist it around to say that you are cheating.

4. They become less interested in what you have to say. If you are discussing something that is truly important to you and there is no response or an abrupt end to the conversation.

5. He doesn’t mind if you go away for long periods of time. Why would he mind if he could have time to cheat.

6. You do not hear from him while he is away. I was once in a relationship where he was away on travel to visit friends and did not hear from him the whole time. He claimed that he was “really busy”. I’m sure he was!

7. He is sick for a long period of time and cannot pick up the phone. If men are sick, they want to be cared for and nurtured. Show us the doctor’s note!

8. He becomes very critical of the things you do. Ladies, watch out! He is trying to throw you off track. He is shifting the focus on you in order to work on yourself.

9. He spends long periods of time on the internet. I once dated someone who would not add me as a friend on Facebook. I realized later on why that was.
10. He does not want to involve you with his friends. If you have been dating for quite a long time and have not been introduced to his friends, let the sirens ring!

Ladies, you can do a few things. If you feel as though he is cheating, do you want to investigate whether he is or not? Trust your intuition! If you feel in your heart that he is cheating, then talk to him. However, talk is cheap. For men who are addicted to the infidelity game, they may tell you what you want to hear. Remember, out of all the men who cheat in this world, there are only 3% who will admit they cheated!

Be careful and beware. Love yourself and value yourself. Just remember what you need to say – “I am woman, hear me roar!”. If he wants to be a Cheetah, you can be a Lion which includes having strength and courage to leave that relationship. You are worthy of a loving, loyal and monogamous relationship.

Wishing you love, happiness and joy this holiday season.